For years I believed the lie, "You can't trust women." That is so false and because of that lie I have missed out on a lot of wonderful opportunities to form relationship's with women. That has been the enemy not letting me move past old wounds.
You know what, when you get to be my age you start looking back at your life and if you're lucky you have grown pass the hurt and are looking at your life with a fresh prospective. Not to say I don't get visited by old hurts from time to time. However, I have learned how to stand against the negative and move on. In that victory, I have come to embrace women. Thank you Lord, Ha lay lu ya! I Love women, if you are a women who has been in my life and you felt like I was cold or not interested in being your friend, I am truly sorry. It was not you, that is all on me and is my great loss.
I have had and do have amazing women in my life but, not as many as I could have. Because of a huge opaque wall that I could not see through and was afraid to climb over. I missed out ladies. Friends I don't want you to miss out. My friends are very special and wonderful ladies that have loved me through some pretty hard stuff and laughed with me in the good times. What a blessing! I want you to be blessed by women too. Let's bless women together.
We can start by being open. Of course that does not mean spill your beans to the first person you meet. Oh ya, has anyone ever done that before? If you do, it just might come back to bite your butt.
Do open the door to kindness. Disclaimer here, I am the last person that should be giving friendship advice. I just want to encourage you to be wise in your friendships with other women but, also give them a chance. Most of us have a lot more to us then the outside shell.
One more little note, friends come in all shapes and sizes. Some of my friends are older and wiser some are younger and wiser, funny but true. Times are changing. For example, I don't understand a lot of the new ways of doing things... tech stuff can be a little over whelming at times but, my grandchildren seem to have that well in hand. Thank goodness, Rachel enjoys and is good at the social media side of things. We all have unique gifts and talents to give and to share. Love each other, value one another. Just like Christ loves us, so are we to love our friends.
Photo taken by Ginny Amesler
"Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good. Be kindly affectionate to one another with sisterly love, in honor giving preference to one another." Romans 12:9-10 NKJV
I want to encourage you to be wise in your friendships but please don't believe in the lie, "That all women can not be trusted."
"The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these ."
Mark 12: 31
In the Bible we are told eight times to love our neighbor. This is one of the Bibles most requested commands. Friendship takes love and kindness, it is not selfish, it is selfless. I believe the Lord is asking us to love, make friends, be a friend, tear down the walls and start building strong bridges.
You go girls, you got this!